What is worship? I've heard so many sermons and explanations of worship that can be summarized in one sentence: Worship is a lifestyle. Ok, true, but only in the past few years have I realized that it's not that simple.
Webster defines worship as "extravagant respect or admiration for or devotion to an object of esteem". If you've been in church for more than a few weeks, you've heard people warn against "worship of idols" such as money, career, family, sports...you get the idea. Right, so we put God ahead of everything else, whatever that means!
But what does worship mean in 2012? I've struggled with the thought for a few months now. Does it mean dressing up and giving our best every time the church opens? Does it mean getting emotional at a certain point in the services? Or does it mean keeping the appearance as minimal as possible, using only piano and singing out of a psalter? Does it mean keeping up with modern times, using an electric guitar and wearing jeans? In all of my moves around the state of Georgia, across and between denominations, I've learned one thing: in every church, worship looks very different. Deep, I know. :) Only recently has this frustrated my young-adult, carnal self. In my previously-mentioned black-and-white mind (see story about the "male" cat in a previous post...lol), there must be a right and wrong way to worship.
As you may know by now, I have a few favorites that I enjoy listening to and reading. Matt Chandler, Elisabeth Elliot, Tullian Tchvidjan, Mark Driscoll, Tim Keller, and David Platt are just a few. (Yeah, PCA/Baptist/non-demonimational....my "buffet-style" Christian background & my resulting theology today might be a bit unique to many faithful southern Baptists! You can see why I'm so confused about what "worship" looks like, haha!) Lately, reading Francis Chan's "Forgotten God" has been my fuel for studying worship.
1 Kings 18 gives an interesting look at worship.The prophets of Baal had a loud, passionate, long worship gathering, yet "no one answered, no one paid attention." Elijah simply prayed a short and meaningful prayer. "Then the fire of the Lord fell and burned up the sacrifice." It's so easy to make and complete a list of "worship tasks" to make ourselves feel "spiritually good", yet worship can be as simple as a genuine prayer. So according to this passage, worship is a prayer.
Yet in 2 Samuel 6, worship looked very different! David danced around the streets "half-naked"! People were appalled by this act. Yet, he continued worshipping. Maybe the act of worship was the fact that he kept dancing even when others were staring; he was so focused and obsessed with his God that he didn't even care what those around him thought. So, worship is focusing all your energies and attention on God.
These are two very different examples! You can probably only imagine how my simple mind is spinning after reading these two stories. Then, Francis Chan gave his interpretation. We can sing and dance and attract a large crowd, but what are the people talking about when they leave? Are they talking about how great the people are or are they talking about what God did? In 2 Samuel, no one was praising David for rescuing the ark of the covenant. In fact, they were shocked by his behavior. In 1 Kings, no one said "Look at what Elijah did! He's such a great man of God." They were in awe of God.
What has God taught me through this? Sad as it may be for my goal-oriented self, worship cannot be defined by a set of actions and appearances. It is "simply" (there's nothing simple about this Christian life on Earth!) living a life that brings glory to God. Each person on Earth is unique, and has special callings while still here. In the same way, each of us has a unique way to show worship to God. Even each day & each moment is a unique opportunity to show worship to God! What I have learned through this personal study is to look for those opportunities; let the Holy Spirit show me ways "to glorify God and to enjoy Him forever" instead of worrying about "how to worship" on Sunday mornings. Just worship! What a relief! :)
Saturday, February 2, 2013
Sunday, October 7, 2012
Christian?
What if you went outside and saw a catterpillar working to become a butterfly? Except, instead of spinning a cocoon it was trying to literlaly make wings. That's silly!
Yet that is what we do, when we as Christians try to "look" like Christ. We try to make good deeds, try to obey the law. Really, the law serves as a reminder that we cannot do it. The only way anything good comes from us is from Christ being in us. The more time we spend with Christ, the more we look like Him. When we try to do good deeds, we are only deceiving ourselves and those around us. When we focus on Christ, however, we suddenly find ourselves doing these good deeds, though it is Christ working them through us.
So clearly we aren't just sitting there "letting Christ work". Just like the caterpillar is working to make a cocoon, we work to spend time with Jesus. Doesn't it sound so silly now to even mention our "wings" we have made? "I had this many people at Bible study." "I gave this much money." We (and by "we" I mean "ME") have missed the point! Christ did those good things, we were just blessed enough to have been chosen to be used.
So, basically being a Christian means spending time with Christ, with the purpose of becoming more like Him. Sounds like a sweet deal to me!
David Platt had a incredible sermon on discipleship over the summer ago entitled "Commisioned by the King". In it he says "Scripture knows nothing of a disciple of Christ who isn't making disciples." Those are some strong words for some of us...wow! Nowhere in the Bible does Jesus command people to go to church twice or even three times week. The only command remotely close is Hebrews 10:5-
"Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another, and all the more as you see the Day approaching." It would be so easy to say that being a good Christian means I go to church every time the doors are open. Or even to say tht I go to church twice on Sundays. Yet nowhere in Scripture to you see this. Dawson Trotman was the founder of the Navigators. If you haven't read his biography "Daws", you should!! In his book "Born to Reproduce" he says "The curse of today is that we are too busy… I am talking about being busy doing Christian things. We have spiritual activity with little productivity." So what does "productivity" look like?
Discipleship. Matthew 28 is the classic example: "Go, make disciples...." What good is "worship" on Sunday morning (and Sunday night) when your life is not a life of worship? A life of worship is constantly looking for ways to make God famous; ways to draw near to God. A life of worship isn't concerned with how many good deeds I've done this week. A life of worship isn't concerned with how many sermons I've listened to this week. A life of worship is looking for needs around you. How can you encourage the person next to you in their walk (or lack thereof) with God? How can you yourself worship God while at work?
Being a Christian means spending time with Christ, with the purpose of becoming more like Him, and encourging those around you to do the same! Live life with each other! Be honest with each other. Challege one another in their walks with God.
Discipleship may look like going to church on Sunday nights, or it may not. It may look like going on Wednesday, or it may not. Each one of us has a unique ministry that God has given us. Thats does not mean, however, that we ship fellowshipping with other believers entirely. Again, Hebrews 10:5. But why do you go to church on Sunday mornings, or Saturday night (whenever your body of belivers meets)? To disciple one another, and encourage one another.
This week I have decided that I am going to live more intentionally. I am going to look for ways to disciple others, and to be a disciple myself. My husband rightfully said "Disciplship isn't a program." It's a lifestyle.
Yet that is what we do, when we as Christians try to "look" like Christ. We try to make good deeds, try to obey the law. Really, the law serves as a reminder that we cannot do it. The only way anything good comes from us is from Christ being in us. The more time we spend with Christ, the more we look like Him. When we try to do good deeds, we are only deceiving ourselves and those around us. When we focus on Christ, however, we suddenly find ourselves doing these good deeds, though it is Christ working them through us.
So clearly we aren't just sitting there "letting Christ work". Just like the caterpillar is working to make a cocoon, we work to spend time with Jesus. Doesn't it sound so silly now to even mention our "wings" we have made? "I had this many people at Bible study." "I gave this much money." We (and by "we" I mean "ME") have missed the point! Christ did those good things, we were just blessed enough to have been chosen to be used.
So, basically being a Christian means spending time with Christ, with the purpose of becoming more like Him. Sounds like a sweet deal to me!
David Platt had a incredible sermon on discipleship over the summer ago entitled "Commisioned by the King". In it he says "Scripture knows nothing of a disciple of Christ who isn't making disciples." Those are some strong words for some of us...wow! Nowhere in the Bible does Jesus command people to go to church twice or even three times week. The only command remotely close is Hebrews 10:5-
"Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another, and all the more as you see the Day approaching." It would be so easy to say that being a good Christian means I go to church every time the doors are open. Or even to say tht I go to church twice on Sundays. Yet nowhere in Scripture to you see this. Dawson Trotman was the founder of the Navigators. If you haven't read his biography "Daws", you should!! In his book "Born to Reproduce" he says "The curse of today is that we are too busy… I am talking about being busy doing Christian things. We have spiritual activity with little productivity." So what does "productivity" look like?
Discipleship. Matthew 28 is the classic example: "Go, make disciples...." What good is "worship" on Sunday morning (and Sunday night) when your life is not a life of worship? A life of worship is constantly looking for ways to make God famous; ways to draw near to God. A life of worship isn't concerned with how many good deeds I've done this week. A life of worship isn't concerned with how many sermons I've listened to this week. A life of worship is looking for needs around you. How can you encourage the person next to you in their walk (or lack thereof) with God? How can you yourself worship God while at work?
Being a Christian means spending time with Christ, with the purpose of becoming more like Him, and encourging those around you to do the same! Live life with each other! Be honest with each other. Challege one another in their walks with God.
Discipleship may look like going to church on Sunday nights, or it may not. It may look like going on Wednesday, or it may not. Each one of us has a unique ministry that God has given us. Thats does not mean, however, that we ship fellowshipping with other believers entirely. Again, Hebrews 10:5. But why do you go to church on Sunday mornings, or Saturday night (whenever your body of belivers meets)? To disciple one another, and encourage one another.
This week I have decided that I am going to live more intentionally. I am going to look for ways to disciple others, and to be a disciple myself. My husband rightfully said "Disciplship isn't a program." It's a lifestyle.
Sunday, July 15, 2012
This is war.
"When life and death go to battle, ain't no tellin' what'll happen." Trip Lee
I realized how true this is from a recent trip to Haiti... a life changing week, like no other.
I knew this trip was going to be hard from the moment I began packing. I've always enjoyed traveling, and have never really been scared of a place. Sure, I had the typical response when people heard we were going to Haiti: "Why would you go to Haiti?" "You do know it's the poorest country in the western hemisphere, right?" I've still got some callousing to do, but after two years of ministry, these comments didn't phase me. However, while packing I felt an odd sense of dread. I suddenly did not want to go. This feeling was foreign to me! When have I ever hesitate at a chance to travel?! God has blessed me with so many mission opportunities, beginning with a trip to Spain in 8th grade with my dad, continuing with several trips to Guatemala, and a trip to Whistler. You get the point: missions & traveling was nothing new. I pushed this dread inside, and subcosiously knew this week was going to be intersteing, one way or the other. Little did I know the effect it would have on my life.
We began our journey at midnight Friday June 29, 2012. After hours of driving, flying, waiting, flying, and driving some more we arrived at the Georgia House in Leogane, Haiti. The drive itself was like nothing I have ever seen. The poverty was impossible to ignore. Sewage and garbage is running in the streets, right past the food vendors and children playing. People are living under tarps, if they even have that. This was a level of poverty I had never seen before. Confirmation #2: this was going to be an interesting week.
Our trip was focused on leading VBS at a local church, and again at a local orphanage. I'm not going to lie: I was disappointed. Anyone who knows me knows that I am not much of a kid person. Confirmation #3: this was going to be an interesting week.
We began with VBS at the church; I was pleasantly surprised at how well it went...and how comfortable I was. The Lord gave me strength and in my weakness He worked through me. That was proven through out the week. In the afternoon, we went to the orphanage. And that is where my life was changed....
The kids were eating lunch when we arrived that first day. "This is awkward!" I thought. Kids covered in mud, food, and water literally begging for attention, pulling from all angles, asking for everything you had. Right there, I just wanted to go home. I remeber praying, "God give me strength. This is going to be a long week." I walked a few steps away to catch my breath, and that's when it happened. I looked down and saw a little boy teeter over to me slowly. When he was at my feet, he looked up and reached. My heart broke right there. This little 18 month boy just wanted someone to hold him. Nevermind the fact that he was clearly malnurished with a swollen belly, he just wanted love. For the rest of the week, we were attached. I'd try to put him down, only to have him scream and roll himself on the dirt until I picked him up again. And honestly, I didn't want to put him down anyways. Monday I was able to put him to sleep before we left. Wednesday is when the heartbreak began. He woke up before we left, and I held him and help him with his snack. The time came for us to leave for the day; he screamed like nothing I've ever heard or felt. He didn't understand. I cried on the way home, dreading the longer goodbye that was to come.
Thursday was our last day at the orphanage. My little boy came waddling over to me. He moves slowly because of his vitamen deficiency. I immediately cleaned him up; he was covered in dirt and food. I held him, and played with him. And I tried so hard to put him to sleep. I dreaded the goodbye that was to come. But he never feel asleep that day. The time came to leave, and he screamed. I walked away, and he got up to follow me. It was all I could do to keep walking to the car; he wasn't fast enough to catch me. I watched him stop and reach for the car while he screamed. I was leaving him to continue this life of poverty, this life without the love and care of a family, to return to my life of comfort and gluttony. It was the hardest moment of my life.
Why would God allow this to happen? Even now, I can't relive the moment without crying. My heart has been broken by a little 18 month Haitian boy. No, my heart has been broken by God.
God has shown me a glimpse at the compassion He has for these orphans, for this poverty striken-nation, and for the world. And it is so overwhelming. I still don't know how God will use this broken heart, but I know He will.
We are currently investigating the possibilty of adopting him. Please pray for us, pray for the boy, and pray for the 300,000 other orphans in Haiti. And remember God's cammand in James 1:27: Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being.
Tuesday, May 29, 2012
The Joy of Salvation
"The first and greatest victory is to conquer yourself; to be conquered by yourself is of all things most shameful and vile." ~Plato
How empowering! If you don't like something, change it! But wait...
You don't like your hair? Dye it. You don't like your shape? Loose weight. You don't like your attitude? Change it. You don't like your anger probelm. Work on it. You fight anxiety. Trust God more. And on and on.... Yet how frustrating and neverending this changing, fighting, and changing some more can be. It can actually be maddening! If you have lived for any amount of time, you know that once you "conquer" one problem (if you ever do!), another one arises. Suddenly you are trapped in a cyle of perfecting yourself! Sure, you may have a picutre of what "perfect" looks like, and a self-help plan to get there. But let's be real: will you ever be "perfect"? Have you ever heard someone say, "Finally, I have attained perfection. I never sin; I am beautiful; I have enough money. I am living in a way that pleases God. I have gained control." No, we never reach that point because we can't. And since we're on the subject, what does it mean to please God?
Romans 2
12 All who sin apart from the law will also perish apart from the law, and all who sin under the law will be judged by the law. 13 For it is not those who hear the law who are righteous in God’s sight, but it is those who obey the law who will be declared righteous.
Yikes. "Those who obey the law will be dedlared righteous." Well, we know every one of us has disobeyed the law.
That's right; even if I read for Bible for one hour a day, pray for three hours a day,love your neighbor, and do all of this before breakfast, I still have not done enough to please God. Why?? Because I cannot be perfect. So, if you're not depressed about this situation, let me summarize. I am a sinner by nature. Therefore, by nature I cannot please God. Even if I go to church every Sunday morning and Sunday night, I am destined to hell, because I cannot please God.
But there is hope.
Galatians 1
"3 Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ, 4 who gave himself for our sins to rescue us from the present evil age, according to the will of our God and Father"
I have been rescued! Jesus has rescued us. Did I do something to deserve this? No!
Ephesians 2
"1As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins, 2in which you used to live when you followed the ways of this world and of the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the spirit who is now at work in those who are disobedient. 3All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our sinful naturea and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature objects of wrath. 4But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, 5made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved. 6And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, 7in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus. 8For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— 9not by works, so that no one can boast."
I was dead. Dead people can't do better; dead people can't respond. Therefore, I have no reason to boast. Did God save us so we can make Him proud? Absolutely not. He saved us to show His power, His grace, and His kindness. So, were in that do you see yourself working, or showing off? Umm, yeah.
Tullian Tchvidjan is one of my favorite pastors. His series "Free at Last" has been life changing for me. I honestly believe I have never know the "joy of my salvation" until very recently.
Galatians 1 explains why I (and maybe some of you) struggle to find that joy. Why I struggled even wanting to go to church. Yeah, that's right. That is the last place I wanted to go.
10 Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.
Read the whole chapter (actually the whole book!). Grace is incredible!!
It is not possible to please God any more! I was not saved because of my good works, therefore, any good works I do now cannot please God any more! It's all about Jesus, nothing about me. And what a relief! It doesn't matter if I don't pray before breakfast; God is still pleased because He is pleased with Christ's work in me. It doesn't matter if I skip church Sunday morning; God is still pleased because He is pleased with Christ's work in me. Do you feel that joy?? That relief????
Why don't we talk about grace more? Why do we hear so many mesages about what we need to do? Because grace is embarrassing. Grace is messy. Grace means: you are worthless without Christ. Grace means there is nothing you can do; you are helpless. People would rather be told a list of things to do no matter how long and hard that list is than the fact that they can't do it.
Paul explains his previous manner of life. He really thought he was pleasing God while persecuting these Christians. What are the "good deeds" I think are pleasing God? Doing my quiet time every day, praying every day, going to church, tithing.... Isaiah 64:6 tells us how "good" those things are: like menstrual rags. Yuck. Kind of embarassing to think we are giving this to God to please Him.
So, why do I have a quiet time? Why do I tithe? And the biggest question for me: why do I go to church? Because I get to! I get to spend time with God everyday; I get to worship Him on Sunday mornings; I get to talk to Him whenever I want to. It is a privilege that I enjoy. And it doesn't make God mad when I don't. Now that is true joy.
How empowering! If you don't like something, change it! But wait...
You don't like your hair? Dye it. You don't like your shape? Loose weight. You don't like your attitude? Change it. You don't like your anger probelm. Work on it. You fight anxiety. Trust God more. And on and on.... Yet how frustrating and neverending this changing, fighting, and changing some more can be. It can actually be maddening! If you have lived for any amount of time, you know that once you "conquer" one problem (if you ever do!), another one arises. Suddenly you are trapped in a cyle of perfecting yourself! Sure, you may have a picutre of what "perfect" looks like, and a self-help plan to get there. But let's be real: will you ever be "perfect"? Have you ever heard someone say, "Finally, I have attained perfection. I never sin; I am beautiful; I have enough money. I am living in a way that pleases God. I have gained control." No, we never reach that point because we can't. And since we're on the subject, what does it mean to please God?
Romans 2
12 All who sin apart from the law will also perish apart from the law, and all who sin under the law will be judged by the law. 13 For it is not those who hear the law who are righteous in God’s sight, but it is those who obey the law who will be declared righteous.
Yikes. "Those who obey the law will be dedlared righteous." Well, we know every one of us has disobeyed the law.
That's right; even if I read for Bible for one hour a day, pray for three hours a day,love your neighbor, and do all of this before breakfast, I still have not done enough to please God. Why?? Because I cannot be perfect. So, if you're not depressed about this situation, let me summarize. I am a sinner by nature. Therefore, by nature I cannot please God. Even if I go to church every Sunday morning and Sunday night, I am destined to hell, because I cannot please God.
But there is hope.
Galatians 1
"3 Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ, 4 who gave himself for our sins to rescue us from the present evil age, according to the will of our God and Father"
I have been rescued! Jesus has rescued us. Did I do something to deserve this? No!
Ephesians 2
"1As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins, 2in which you used to live when you followed the ways of this world and of the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the spirit who is now at work in those who are disobedient. 3All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our sinful naturea and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature objects of wrath. 4But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, 5made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved. 6And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, 7in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus. 8For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— 9not by works, so that no one can boast."
I was dead. Dead people can't do better; dead people can't respond. Therefore, I have no reason to boast. Did God save us so we can make Him proud? Absolutely not. He saved us to show His power, His grace, and His kindness. So, were in that do you see yourself working, or showing off? Umm, yeah.
Tullian Tchvidjan is one of my favorite pastors. His series "Free at Last" has been life changing for me. I honestly believe I have never know the "joy of my salvation" until very recently.
Galatians 1 explains why I (and maybe some of you) struggle to find that joy. Why I struggled even wanting to go to church. Yeah, that's right. That is the last place I wanted to go.
10 Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.
Read the whole chapter (actually the whole book!). Grace is incredible!!
It is not possible to please God any more! I was not saved because of my good works, therefore, any good works I do now cannot please God any more! It's all about Jesus, nothing about me. And what a relief! It doesn't matter if I don't pray before breakfast; God is still pleased because He is pleased with Christ's work in me. It doesn't matter if I skip church Sunday morning; God is still pleased because He is pleased with Christ's work in me. Do you feel that joy?? That relief????
Why don't we talk about grace more? Why do we hear so many mesages about what we need to do? Because grace is embarrassing. Grace is messy. Grace means: you are worthless without Christ. Grace means there is nothing you can do; you are helpless. People would rather be told a list of things to do no matter how long and hard that list is than the fact that they can't do it.
Paul explains his previous manner of life. He really thought he was pleasing God while persecuting these Christians. What are the "good deeds" I think are pleasing God? Doing my quiet time every day, praying every day, going to church, tithing.... Isaiah 64:6 tells us how "good" those things are: like menstrual rags. Yuck. Kind of embarassing to think we are giving this to God to please Him.
So, why do I have a quiet time? Why do I tithe? And the biggest question for me: why do I go to church? Because I get to! I get to spend time with God everyday; I get to worship Him on Sunday mornings; I get to talk to Him whenever I want to. It is a privilege that I enjoy. And it doesn't make God mad when I don't. Now that is true joy.
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
Keeping Up With the Jones'
As you well know by now, I absolutely love quotes (especially the Bible). Here are a few I found that address a topic close to my heart right now. To be honest, it is something that has been revealed as a personal struggle and it's danger is unavoidable.
"Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy "stuff" we don't need." -Brad Pitt in Fight Club
"They has their cynical code worked out. The public are swine; advertising is the rattling of a stick inside a swill-bucket."
-George Orwell, Animal Farm
That demon of comparison: it is attacks from every angle. You cancel your cable subscription to avoid the commercials advertising the fast new cars you need to succeed, only to drive past billboard promoting the newest phone, the prettiest hair, and the best food. Subliminally (or often, not so much) we sent messages about things we need in order be truly successful. I mean, after all, everyone knows you don't have a real phone until you get the new iphone; that is, until they come out with the next smart phone. And only houses decorated with Pottery Barn are truly a cozy home. Truly successful people shop at Barney's and Dash. Life is purely seen in black white until you get that new red Shelby; only then can you see in color. And of course, the more education you get the more esteemed you will be. You get my point. And let me be honest once more; each of these examples are lies with which I personally struggle.
How destructive these lies are!! I mean, if I acted on every one of these lies (and more....) I'd be most assuredly deeply depressed from the constant dissatisfaction (and probably in a poor house somewhere).
What is true success then? I believe it is the exact opposite. The people who have truly succeeded are the ones who have been able to counter these constant attacks. While iphones and Mustangs are not bad (that would be the easy answer!) they should not symbolize success. My black-and-white, purely logical personality would love to say Banana Republic and Pottery Barn are evil and should be avoided. Instead they need to be included with balance.
1 Timothy 6
3 If anyone teaches otherwise and does not agree to the sound instruction of our Lord Jesus Christ and to godly teaching, 4 they are conceited and understand nothing. They have an unhealthy interest in controversies and quarrels about words that result in envy, strife, malicious talk, evil suspicions 5 and constant friction between people of corrupt mind, who have been robbed of the truth and who think that godliness is a means to financial gain.
So next time you see Starbucks as a necessity, or even a necessary evil, view it in the Biblical light. Will this help or hinder my ultimate goal of glorifying God?
Verse 18 says, "Command them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share."
"Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy "stuff" we don't need." -Brad Pitt in Fight Club
"They has their cynical code worked out. The public are swine; advertising is the rattling of a stick inside a swill-bucket."
-George Orwell, Animal Farm
That demon of comparison: it is attacks from every angle. You cancel your cable subscription to avoid the commercials advertising the fast new cars you need to succeed, only to drive past billboard promoting the newest phone, the prettiest hair, and the best food. Subliminally (or often, not so much) we sent messages about things we need in order be truly successful. I mean, after all, everyone knows you don't have a real phone until you get the new iphone; that is, until they come out with the next smart phone. And only houses decorated with Pottery Barn are truly a cozy home. Truly successful people shop at Barney's and Dash. Life is purely seen in black white until you get that new red Shelby; only then can you see in color. And of course, the more education you get the more esteemed you will be. You get my point. And let me be honest once more; each of these examples are lies with which I personally struggle.
How destructive these lies are!! I mean, if I acted on every one of these lies (and more....) I'd be most assuredly deeply depressed from the constant dissatisfaction (and probably in a poor house somewhere).
What is true success then? I believe it is the exact opposite. The people who have truly succeeded are the ones who have been able to counter these constant attacks. While iphones and Mustangs are not bad (that would be the easy answer!) they should not symbolize success. My black-and-white, purely logical personality would love to say Banana Republic and Pottery Barn are evil and should be avoided. Instead they need to be included with balance.
1 Timothy 6
3 If anyone teaches otherwise and does not agree to the sound instruction of our Lord Jesus Christ and to godly teaching, 4 they are conceited and understand nothing. They have an unhealthy interest in controversies and quarrels about words that result in envy, strife, malicious talk, evil suspicions 5 and constant friction between people of corrupt mind, who have been robbed of the truth and who think that godliness is a means to financial gain.
6 But godliness with contentment is great gain. 7 For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. 8 But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that. 9 Those who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction. 10 For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.
I hope you are thinking," Wow..'some have wandered from the faith'!? That's serious." Yes, it really is. God has used a week in south Florida to reveal the intense danger of this. To see people so consumed with things, living the life I have always dreamed of, yet so completely empty and discouraged. It has been humbling and quite frankly is has been terrifying. It is so easy to get into the "keeping up with the Jones" mentality; the traps are set everywhere. How do we avoid them?
The answer is found in the following verses.
11 But you, man of God, flee from all this, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness. 12Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called when you made your good confession in the presence of many witnesses. 13 In the sight of God, who gives life to everything, and of Christ Jesus, who while testifying before Pontius Pilate made the good confession, I charge you 14 to keep this command without spot or blame until the appearing of our Lord Jesus Christ, 15 which God will bring about in his own time—God, the blessed and only Ruler, the King of kings and Lord of lords, 16 who alone is immortal and who lives in unapproachable light, whom no one has seen or can see. To him be honor and might forever. Amen.
It's not about turning off your TV or not looking at magazines. It's about pursuing godliness, fighting the good fight of faith. It is about doing whatever it is you need to do to stay focused on the goal: make God famous. For you that may mean avoiding the mall; I know for me there are going to be some changes in made in my daily life. And instead of being bitter about being two hours from Starbucks and forty minutes from my favorite gym, I am learning to thankful that God has given me a break from those "traps", and has highlighted others.
So next time you see Starbucks as a necessity, or even a necessary evil, view it in the Biblical light. Will this help or hinder my ultimate goal of glorifying God?
Verse 18 says, "Command them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share."
Sunday, March 20, 2011
Warning of the Danger Ahead
With my previously mentioned extensive experience with traffic cops, one of my favorite services to the community has become the "warning lights." "Warning lights" is that courteous blinking of your car head lights to cars headed in the other direction when there is an accident or more importantly a cop hiding up ahead. Every time I successfully pass a cop, I feel it is my duty to warn passing cars of the danger ahead. Maybe it's revenge, but it gives me such a rush of pride and that "haha, you won't be giving any speeding tickets as long as I have anything to say about it" feeling. Don't lie; you know the feeling.
Now don't take this analogy too far. I do know that cops are GENERALLY my friend. I will always be indebted to that cop who came to check out the strange man knocking on doors at my apartment in Statesboro, and the one who picked up the drugged up lady banging on our door last month at 2 am. However, it may take me years of counseling and reconciliation to appreciate the role of traffic cops; just give me time.
Last Friday I had the opportunity to perform my civic duty with pride. Suddenly it hit me: I was warning them of the danger to come, much like we should warn our friends of the Judgement to come. Yes I know, for all of you perfect drivers out there it is a stretch to compare passing a cop to eternity in hell, but I have faith that there is at least one of you out there who shares my terror of blue lights. Work with me here.
This thought brought more thinking. Why do I get so much pride and joy from my "warning lights" yet have to work up my energy to even mention church or Bible study to my coworkers, friends, and neighbors? My job is to warn them of the "Danger" ahead; it is part of the Great Commission. Not only am I called to warn them of hell, but I am also supposed to "make disciples." That means warning (and preparing) young believers of the trouble ahead in the Christian life. Why is there so little pride and joy from that??
More thinking brought the following conviction (it was a long drive): my measurement of worth has been off. As an average American girl, I subconsciously expect immediate results. I want a job now or I feel like a failure; I want to shop now or I feel behind in the styles; I want to watch someone drive by the cop safely now or I feel that their evil scheme to provide everyone in the world with a speeding ticket has succeeded....
My point: making disciples is not something that produces immediate results. But it is what produces true and lasting results. The generation of immediate results has resulted in churches that base their growth and success on how many people attend church Sunday morning rather than how many are involved in active discipleship. Numbers is an immediate result, but that should not be what gives us pride and excitement.
So next time sometime kindly warns you of the "danger" ahead on the roads, take that as a reminder to warn those around you of the dangers in this Christian life.
Thursday, December 30, 2010
Funny Face
I firmly believe that you can learned life lessons from anyone and anything if you look for it. I mean, even the famous New York Yankee (woot woot!) Yogi Berra was full of wise words: "If the world was perfect, it wouldn't be."
For those of you classic movie fans (ahem.... Rebecca!) you know this next quote to be from none other than Audrey Hepburn. She is without a doubt my favorite actress of all time. And no, I have no deep spiritual explanation for this admiration. I just love her work!
“I was asked to act when I couldn't act. I was asked to sing 'Funny Face' when I couldn't sing, and dance with Fred Astaire when I couldn't dance - and do all kinds of things I wasn't prepared for. Then I tried like mad to cope with it.”
So, what can we learn from this luminary who "had it all together"? Even our classic heros and Hollywood stars who seem to be living the life they'd always dreamed of have to deal with the cards dealt to them. Audrey Hepburn didn't feel prepared for her role in "Funny Face"; but did she give up? Thank goodness no! As a result, we can now watch her stunning performance with Fred Astaire in this exemplar film.
In my own life, things have not been panning out like I planned. Nothing horrific or awful, just my own personal "Funny Face" kind of year. Am I going to let the fear of the unknown paralyze me or will I "try like mad to cope with it"?
What are your "Funny Face" situations? Will you rise up to the challenge and let God use you?
For those of you classic movie fans (ahem.... Rebecca!) you know this next quote to be from none other than Audrey Hepburn. She is without a doubt my favorite actress of all time. And no, I have no deep spiritual explanation for this admiration. I just love her work!
“I was asked to act when I couldn't act. I was asked to sing 'Funny Face' when I couldn't sing, and dance with Fred Astaire when I couldn't dance - and do all kinds of things I wasn't prepared for. Then I tried like mad to cope with it.”
So, what can we learn from this luminary who "had it all together"? Even our classic heros and Hollywood stars who seem to be living the life they'd always dreamed of have to deal with the cards dealt to them. Audrey Hepburn didn't feel prepared for her role in "Funny Face"; but did she give up? Thank goodness no! As a result, we can now watch her stunning performance with Fred Astaire in this exemplar film.
In my own life, things have not been panning out like I planned. Nothing horrific or awful, just my own personal "Funny Face" kind of year. Am I going to let the fear of the unknown paralyze me or will I "try like mad to cope with it"?
What are your "Funny Face" situations? Will you rise up to the challenge and let God use you?
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
The Call to Missions
Webster defines missionary as "one who undertakes a mission, especially a religious mission". When most people hear the term missionary that think of someone who has this major calling from God to go overseas. Not too long ago I heard a lady tell an overseas missionary, "I am so sorry you have to live over there." Somehow people have developed a wrong view of true missions. I would like to submit that every Christian is called to missions.
In Matthew 28, Jesus gives all Christians what is known as "the Great Commission."
“All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”
That is the mission given to all believers. So, technically, every one of us is a missionary. The teacher is a missionary to her students and her fellow teachers; the athlete is a missionary to his team, coaches, and fans; the doctor is a missionary to his patients and staff. And that's just on the career side of life; we are missionaries to our neighbors, we missionaries to the people we see at the grocery store.
So, I am a missionary to the people in this new south Georgia town (the culture shock makes that one not hard to believe!); I am a missionary to my neighbors; I am a missionary to the students and teachers when I sub. You never know what action or word those around you notice that makes them say "She is different!"
Now, before you can applied this call to missions you need to ask yourself, "Am I different?" This should be a relief to Christians. "I always knew I didn't fit in; what a relief!" But if that is not the case, some evaluating needs to be done. Why do you fit in with the world? Can they even tell you are different?!
You have been called to missions. Now go live it!
In Matthew 28, Jesus gives all Christians what is known as "the Great Commission."
“All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”
That is the mission given to all believers. So, technically, every one of us is a missionary. The teacher is a missionary to her students and her fellow teachers; the athlete is a missionary to his team, coaches, and fans; the doctor is a missionary to his patients and staff. And that's just on the career side of life; we are missionaries to our neighbors, we missionaries to the people we see at the grocery store.
So, I am a missionary to the people in this new south Georgia town (the culture shock makes that one not hard to believe!); I am a missionary to my neighbors; I am a missionary to the students and teachers when I sub. You never know what action or word those around you notice that makes them say "She is different!"
Now, before you can applied this call to missions you need to ask yourself, "Am I different?" This should be a relief to Christians. "I always knew I didn't fit in; what a relief!" But if that is not the case, some evaluating needs to be done. Why do you fit in with the world? Can they even tell you are different?!
You have been called to missions. Now go live it!
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
Standing in the Gap
The most immutable person I know is my husband; what an amazing man! I will not lie to you: God is still working on my ability to show patience and mercy, and I have a LOT of learning to do. Yet He has given me a husband who excels at both. And, man, is it humbling! Isn't it funny how God uses the actions and kindness of others to convict? I can think of more than one occasion just today where I made life difficult and he had every right to just quit being so nice; but he never does. You see, when life gets tough, I interpret that as the "time to move on" signal from God; how naive, and yes, weak!! Fortunately, my husband is much stronger and wiser than I; otherwise, God would have "called" us to several different life situations by now, and we'd be well on our way to living on a secluded island somewhere.
I am the chief offender of chalking up hardship to being "out of God's will." Jobs, people, cities; I mean, I'm even reading to a book to try and figure out what to eat and not eat in order to avoid cancer. Whatever makes life easy...yes, I am weak. But God calls us to tough situations: daily actually. Luke 9:23- "Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily, and follow Me." So loneliness, depression, difficulty all should be encouraging. Jesus even warned us in Matthew 9:37- "The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few." Clearly this is not gonna be an easy walk on this earth!
God is searching for people to stand in the gap (Ezekiel 22:30). This is not a small task or a "group" effort. It is a call to loneliness and discouragement. But it is a call to serve the ultimate calling. I mean think about it: if it were an easy job He would have to look very long for people to fill it.
What "gap" has God called you to fill? Could it be that the difficult situation in which you've found yourself is right in the middle of God's plan? In the midst of the hardship, you are "standing in the gap." Wow! How exciting is that?! Be faithful to cover that gap He has entrusted you with. We may not know the difference we are making until we get to heaven, but oh boy, will it be worth it!! Who will have the chance to hear the gospel because you were there to stand in the gap; who will be discipled only because you were there, willing to handle the tough times? Joshua 1:9- "Be strong and courageous!"
I am the chief offender of chalking up hardship to being "out of God's will." Jobs, people, cities; I mean, I'm even reading to a book to try and figure out what to eat and not eat in order to avoid cancer. Whatever makes life easy...yes, I am weak. But God calls us to tough situations: daily actually. Luke 9:23- "Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily, and follow Me." So loneliness, depression, difficulty all should be encouraging. Jesus even warned us in Matthew 9:37- "The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few." Clearly this is not gonna be an easy walk on this earth!
God is searching for people to stand in the gap (Ezekiel 22:30). This is not a small task or a "group" effort. It is a call to loneliness and discouragement. But it is a call to serve the ultimate calling. I mean think about it: if it were an easy job He would have to look very long for people to fill it.
What "gap" has God called you to fill? Could it be that the difficult situation in which you've found yourself is right in the middle of God's plan? In the midst of the hardship, you are "standing in the gap." Wow! How exciting is that?! Be faithful to cover that gap He has entrusted you with. We may not know the difference we are making until we get to heaven, but oh boy, will it be worth it!! Who will have the chance to hear the gospel because you were there to stand in the gap; who will be discipled only because you were there, willing to handle the tough times? Joshua 1:9- "Be strong and courageous!"
Monday, November 8, 2010
Contentment
If you haven't noticed already, I love my animals. My first pets were two cats named Three and Four. (I had just learned to count that week.) My pets progressed to a rottweiler named Moe who lasted maybe a month before he ended up at the ominous Wal-mart. You see, this is where we took the pets who didn't quite fit in. Needless to say, a stray rottweiler puppy did not fit in with my baby brother and sister. Then came Wendy the black mutt who lasted only a few weeks longer than Moe, then Tumnus the grey cat. (I was reading the Chronicles of Narnia at this time.) Tumus was the proverbial "cat with nine lives". One winter he climbed up into the engine of a car, only to come out with three and a half paws. :( In our humanistic minds,one might say "Well he has every right to become a grumpy old cat!" But he was a real trooper. You'd never know the difference ten years later when he was still walking around, purring away. I do not have a memory of Tumnus in which he was not purring. Talk about a content cat! And he never met a dog he didn't like (or more importantly a dog that he provoked to chase him!). Rain or shine, black lab or shi tzu, Tumnus had learned the secret to contentment.
Similarly, our new addition to the family Aubri the cailco kitten has that same laid-back approach to life (though 90% of the time, we are convinced she is on Speed!). A few weeks ago her hyper-active lifestyle got her in a bit of trouble, but did that slow her down? Not one bit. Yes, she nearly lost her tail and spent two weeks in a cool whip container with stitches. But I'm quite convinced that the entire process was more painful for me than for her. "What if the vet cuts off her tail!? I can't believe she is in so much pain!" And blah blah blah, worry worry worry. Meanwhile, Aubri is pouncing on air, and yes, purring incessantly. I mean, she was on a streets just months ago; losing her tail is the least of her worries. Why is it easier for my cat to be content than it is for me!?
Ouch. Did you feel that twinge of conviction, too? As a culture and in our own personal lives we have lost that feeling of true contentment. How can we regain that peace??
Philippians 4:12-13
I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
Contentment is found in acknowledging God's sovereignty. Romans 8:28 says, "God causes all things to work together for the good of those He has called according to His purpose." EVERYTHING! Whether you working and would rather be at home, or are at home and would rather be working, God is working! Whether you're a city girl in the country or a country girl in the city, God is working! Through depression, and breakups, deaths, and discouragements, God is still God and He is working!
In fact, if things aren't going your way, get excited because that means you are not in control; Someone greater is! Only then can we claim Philippians 4:13 and then find true contentment.
I have realized after adopting Aubri that I am one of the very few cat lovers. But I hope you will still learn from the attitudes of Tumnus and Aubri.
Romans 8:28-30
28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. 29 For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters. 30 And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, he also glorified.
Similarly, our new addition to the family Aubri the cailco kitten has that same laid-back approach to life (though 90% of the time, we are convinced she is on Speed!). A few weeks ago her hyper-active lifestyle got her in a bit of trouble, but did that slow her down? Not one bit. Yes, she nearly lost her tail and spent two weeks in a cool whip container with stitches. But I'm quite convinced that the entire process was more painful for me than for her. "What if the vet cuts off her tail!? I can't believe she is in so much pain!" And blah blah blah, worry worry worry. Meanwhile, Aubri is pouncing on air, and yes, purring incessantly. I mean, she was on a streets just months ago; losing her tail is the least of her worries. Why is it easier for my cat to be content than it is for me!?
Ouch. Did you feel that twinge of conviction, too? As a culture and in our own personal lives we have lost that feeling of true contentment. How can we regain that peace??
Philippians 4:12-13
I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
Contentment is found in acknowledging God's sovereignty. Romans 8:28 says, "God causes all things to work together for the good of those He has called according to His purpose." EVERYTHING! Whether you working and would rather be at home, or are at home and would rather be working, God is working! Whether you're a city girl in the country or a country girl in the city, God is working! Through depression, and breakups, deaths, and discouragements, God is still God and He is working!
In fact, if things aren't going your way, get excited because that means you are not in control; Someone greater is! Only then can we claim Philippians 4:13 and then find true contentment.
I have realized after adopting Aubri that I am one of the very few cat lovers. But I hope you will still learn from the attitudes of Tumnus and Aubri.
Romans 8:28-30
28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. 29 For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters. 30 And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, he also glorified.
Saturday, October 30, 2010
Fruit
There are many moments during one's childhood that make such an impression that they are remembered for a lifetime. These are the moments that we use to learn, to grow, and most importantly to laugh. :) I've had several of those that make me cringe, "What was I thinking? Certainly that wasn't me!" My mother can confirm, however, that there was in fact a scrubbed down milk tin found in the nearby cow pasture creek given to her by her oldest 6th grade daughter as an anniversary gift. Yes, cringe. Again I ask myself "What was I thinking?!" It's the thought that counts. :)
Another such memory is less embarrassing and simply shocking to the mind of a ten year old. My sister had a "male" cat named Oreo. Now, we have always loved our animals dearly but they are just that: animals. I will never forget the day I walked outside and was stunted by what I saw; I ran back in a panic. "Mom, Oreo is nursing some cat's kittens!!!" I was smart you see; I knew that boy cats don't have kittens so certainly Oreo kidnapped these poor babies. But no, the shock was not over; I soon learned that Oreo was in fact a mother. Boy cats do not nurse; he was a girl!
Matthew 7:16: You shall know them by their fruits.
All this time we had been fooled into thinking Oreo was a boy; however, when it was all said and done her true self was revealed. Having kittens did not make Oreo a girl. Just the opposite is true. Because she was a girl, she was able to have kittens. The same can be said of Christians. Yearning for God's Word and growth, loving and serving others, being faithful to God and His commandments do not make us Christians. However, as Christians this is how we will act. Just like the kittens made us realize Oreo's true self, a person's desires and priorities can give us a hint to his/her true identity. How can a true believer not want to make time with the Lord part of their daily walk? How can a Christian feel no remorse for sin, apathy, or unfaithfulness? We are still humans; we will mess up daily! But someone who has a relationship with the Lord feels that tug and discomfort that comes from knowing their actions/thoughts/words do not please God.
Matthew 7:21-23: Not everyone who says to me, "Lord, Lord" will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. Many will say to me on that day, "Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your Name, and in Your name drive out demons and perform many miracles?" Then I will tell the plainly, "I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!"
What is your lifestyle? Yes, Christianity affects your entire life. Are you characterized as a person who is angry, mean, selfish? Are you preoccupied with sports, academics, or even your family? How are you raising your children? Do they put sports, friends, and fun over Bible study and their relationship with the Lord? Yes, even children can have a walk with God, and they do show fruit! Or do people see something different in you?
Galatians 5:22-23: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.
Another such memory is less embarrassing and simply shocking to the mind of a ten year old. My sister had a "male" cat named Oreo. Now, we have always loved our animals dearly but they are just that: animals. I will never forget the day I walked outside and was stunted by what I saw; I ran back in a panic. "Mom, Oreo is nursing some cat's kittens!!!" I was smart you see; I knew that boy cats don't have kittens so certainly Oreo kidnapped these poor babies. But no, the shock was not over; I soon learned that Oreo was in fact a mother. Boy cats do not nurse; he was a girl!
Matthew 7:16: You shall know them by their fruits.
All this time we had been fooled into thinking Oreo was a boy; however, when it was all said and done her true self was revealed. Having kittens did not make Oreo a girl. Just the opposite is true. Because she was a girl, she was able to have kittens. The same can be said of Christians. Yearning for God's Word and growth, loving and serving others, being faithful to God and His commandments do not make us Christians. However, as Christians this is how we will act. Just like the kittens made us realize Oreo's true self, a person's desires and priorities can give us a hint to his/her true identity. How can a true believer not want to make time with the Lord part of their daily walk? How can a Christian feel no remorse for sin, apathy, or unfaithfulness? We are still humans; we will mess up daily! But someone who has a relationship with the Lord feels that tug and discomfort that comes from knowing their actions/thoughts/words do not please God.
Matthew 7:21-23: Not everyone who says to me, "Lord, Lord" will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. Many will say to me on that day, "Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your Name, and in Your name drive out demons and perform many miracles?" Then I will tell the plainly, "I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!"
What is your lifestyle? Yes, Christianity affects your entire life. Are you characterized as a person who is angry, mean, selfish? Are you preoccupied with sports, academics, or even your family? How are you raising your children? Do they put sports, friends, and fun over Bible study and their relationship with the Lord? Yes, even children can have a walk with God, and they do show fruit! Or do people see something different in you?
Galatians 5:22-23: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.
Saturday, October 16, 2010
A Life to Be Emulated
At one point in my childhood years my dad was a college pastor. And let me tell you, I was the luckiest little kid on the planet: nonstop attention from cool college kids! One in particular was a girl who would take us on excursions around Athens; she earned the right to have my childhood dog named after her. And when she asked me to be her flower girl, I was on cloud nine! Since then, we have been able to keep in touch through all the moves and life changes. Now I have enjoyed getting to know her three fun-loving girls while still being fortunate enough to have her as an example of a Godly wife and mother.
And that is what the Christian walk should look like: encouraging one another. Titus 2 explains it well:
And that is what the Christian walk should look like: encouraging one another. Titus 2 explains it well:
"3Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God."
That whole "train younger women" doesn't have to be a literal class or "how-to" discussion (and rarely is!). It is about providing a physical example of the Proverbs 31 woman; a lifestyle that younger women can safely emulate and know they are becoming more like Christ. And honestly, you never know who you may impacting. That middle school girl who seems to want nothing to do with you may actually be watching you like a hawk. There have been countless times that I have found myself thinking, "How would Wendy/Mom/Karen.... respond in this situation?" Or maybe the more frequent convictions after the fact: "She would never have responded like that." And each woman as someone looking up to her. The middle school girl has her little sister following her foot steps; the college girl has high schoolers watching her every move. Who is watching you??
Paul said in 1 Corinthians 11:1, "Follow me as I follow Christ." Can you say that about your life?
Sunday, October 3, 2010
Life is good?
My aunt has always been a huge proponent of personality types, and thus I have become a huge fan. It fascinates me how one little test can explain so much about a person. I can't tell you how many "ah ha!" moments I have had at her house while discussing this topic. "So that is why she does that!" More recently this cure-all test has been applied to my husband and I. Admittedly, I am into this a good bit more than my husband; however, as the days go by living with his melancholy-choleric I can see he is slowly buying into the idea. I keep life exciting for my sanguine-phlegmatic! Yes it's true, we are complete opposites. Though as a good choleric, I would argue he has a hint of choleric in him as well. Back to my point....
Being a "scholar of the types" I would call my new home town phlegmatic-phlegmatic. Life is very laid back, slow, and fun. Oh to be a phlegmatic! I envy their "easygoing-ness". Contrary to my title, life for a melancholy is not always good. Wikipedia defines melancholy as "the mental type, live by-the-book." An example of this is my car accident in high school. At a stop sign, I stopped at the white line. Going past the line would be breaking the rules, so heaven forbid I pull up past the bush on my left to see if a car is coming. Sure enough, just behind the bush was a Yukon. Suddenly, that rule about stopping at the white line didn't seem so important.
A list of melancholy character traits includes "sensitive, unsociable, moody, perfectionist, melancholy." The last part of that definition is the part that's real bummer....literally! We melancholies tend to feel things very deeply. So, life can be a bit of a roller coaster. Needless to say, these past few months have been full of change and uncertainty. Sometimes life does not feel so good.
I've heard more often than once lately "Just trust God! He is in control." But do my feelings of depression really mean I am not trusting God? I struggled with this thought for a while. I am trying the best I know how to trust God; in my head I know He has a perfect plan and I honestly am excited about it; I am faithful to spend time with Him. So why do I still have feelings of discouragement? Why am I not always "high on life" like my wonderful sanguine-phlegmatic? Because that is not how God made me. Through my studies, I have been reminded of the many accounts that God simply asks for pure honesty. The Kaph section of Psalm 119 (verses 81-88) is the Psalmist begging for comfort; Job poured out his heart and his negative emotions to God; Ecclesiastes is full of Solomon's despair.
God will bring us through rough times. He does not ask us to feel good about it; He simply asks us to rely on Him for strength. When we don't understand or when we think life is spinning in a downward cycle, we can find peace in His Word. Our true trust is found in where we turn when the darkness seems overwhelming. Jesus Himself asked for relief before His crucifixion. "But not My will, but Thine be done."
Let me backtrack a moment to look on the positive side (a big step for this personality type, I know!). I said earlier that God has given each person their personalities for a reason. You are probably convinced that mine is just awful. There are positives and negatives to each type! Because of our deep ability to feel things, we are able to relate to people on a deep level. You can usually tell what we are thinking, if not by what we say, by the look on our faces, so we can't help but be open. We are very loyal and will do what it takes to get a job done. So for all my fellow melancholies out there, look on the bright side! God is using us in unique ways. Look to your true source of peace, and when those dark days come buckle down and focus on the Truth.
Psalm 119:103- "How sweet are Your Words to my taste! Yes, sweeter than honey to my mouth!"
Being a "scholar of the types" I would call my new home town phlegmatic-phlegmatic. Life is very laid back, slow, and fun. Oh to be a phlegmatic! I envy their "easygoing-ness". Contrary to my title, life for a melancholy is not always good. Wikipedia defines melancholy as "the mental type, live by-the-book." An example of this is my car accident in high school. At a stop sign, I stopped at the white line. Going past the line would be breaking the rules, so heaven forbid I pull up past the bush on my left to see if a car is coming. Sure enough, just behind the bush was a Yukon. Suddenly, that rule about stopping at the white line didn't seem so important.
A list of melancholy character traits includes "sensitive, unsociable, moody, perfectionist, melancholy." The last part of that definition is the part that's real bummer....literally! We melancholies tend to feel things very deeply. So, life can be a bit of a roller coaster. Needless to say, these past few months have been full of change and uncertainty. Sometimes life does not feel so good.
I've heard more often than once lately "Just trust God! He is in control." But do my feelings of depression really mean I am not trusting God? I struggled with this thought for a while. I am trying the best I know how to trust God; in my head I know He has a perfect plan and I honestly am excited about it; I am faithful to spend time with Him. So why do I still have feelings of discouragement? Why am I not always "high on life" like my wonderful sanguine-phlegmatic? Because that is not how God made me. Through my studies, I have been reminded of the many accounts that God simply asks for pure honesty. The Kaph section of Psalm 119 (verses 81-88) is the Psalmist begging for comfort; Job poured out his heart and his negative emotions to God; Ecclesiastes is full of Solomon's despair.
God will bring us through rough times. He does not ask us to feel good about it; He simply asks us to rely on Him for strength. When we don't understand or when we think life is spinning in a downward cycle, we can find peace in His Word. Our true trust is found in where we turn when the darkness seems overwhelming. Jesus Himself asked for relief before His crucifixion. "But not My will, but Thine be done."
Let me backtrack a moment to look on the positive side (a big step for this personality type, I know!). I said earlier that God has given each person their personalities for a reason. You are probably convinced that mine is just awful. There are positives and negatives to each type! Because of our deep ability to feel things, we are able to relate to people on a deep level. You can usually tell what we are thinking, if not by what we say, by the look on our faces, so we can't help but be open. We are very loyal and will do what it takes to get a job done. So for all my fellow melancholies out there, look on the bright side! God is using us in unique ways. Look to your true source of peace, and when those dark days come buckle down and focus on the Truth.
Psalm 119:103- "How sweet are Your Words to my taste! Yes, sweeter than honey to my mouth!"
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Count Your Blessings
1 Chronicles 16:34- Give thanks to the LORD for He is good; His love endures forever.
*in no particular order
1. My Husband:
He always enjoys having fun. He includes me in his ministry work here, and provides for me (jobless) with no complaint.
2.My Dad:
He is a great example of self-sacrificing. He always stands up forwhat is right and for what God has called him to do.
3. My Mom:
She is more concerned about the welfare of others than that of herself. She is always ready to listen and provide encouragement.
4. My sisters Emily and Kelsey:
They are both so much fun and always know how to have a good time! They are always ready to listen and encourage, each in her own way.
5. My brothers Christopher and Caleb:
They are both very committed to their ministries. Like my Dad, they are very self-less and always look for opportunities to serve others.
6. My friend Amanda Johnson:
Though we have only been friends for a few months, she has been one of most encouraging friends I've ever had. She is always ready to listen and provide honest advise. She encourages me with honesty about her own openess.
7. My friend Rebecca Hager:
She has been my loyal friend since birth! I can always count on Rebecca to be there for me. Seriously, she's been there through the thick and thin!
8. My In-Laws:
They are all very supportive and very generous. They are all ready at a moments notice to help with anything.
9. My chihuahua and kitten:
They give me loyal company and entertainment while at home! Seriously, I can't walk to another room without a small parade behind me. Ha!
10. God's Word:
What a comfort it brings! God's Word is the guidebook for life. It provides encouragement for the Christians and convictions for the sinner.
There is sooo much more to be thankful for but that would take days!! Take the challenge and make note of things you are most thankful for. Notice how God has blessed you! The relief and comfort that comes is well worth the time.
*in no particular order
1. My Husband:
He always enjoys having fun. He includes me in his ministry work here, and provides for me (jobless) with no complaint.
2.My Dad:
He is a great example of self-sacrificing. He always stands up forwhat is right and for what God has called him to do.
3. My Mom:
She is more concerned about the welfare of others than that of herself. She is always ready to listen and provide encouragement.
4. My sisters Emily and Kelsey:
They are both so much fun and always know how to have a good time! They are always ready to listen and encourage, each in her own way.
5. My brothers Christopher and Caleb:
They are both very committed to their ministries. Like my Dad, they are very self-less and always look for opportunities to serve others.
6. My friend Amanda Johnson:
Though we have only been friends for a few months, she has been one of most encouraging friends I've ever had. She is always ready to listen and provide honest advise. She encourages me with honesty about her own openess.
7. My friend Rebecca Hager:
She has been my loyal friend since birth! I can always count on Rebecca to be there for me. Seriously, she's been there through the thick and thin!
8. My In-Laws:
They are all very supportive and very generous. They are all ready at a moments notice to help with anything.
9. My chihuahua and kitten:
They give me loyal company and entertainment while at home! Seriously, I can't walk to another room without a small parade behind me. Ha!
10. God's Word:
What a comfort it brings! God's Word is the guidebook for life. It provides encouragement for the Christians and convictions for the sinner.
There is sooo much more to be thankful for but that would take days!! Take the challenge and make note of things you are most thankful for. Notice how God has blessed you! The relief and comfort that comes is well worth the time.
Friday, September 24, 2010
Redecorating
I believe I have "redecorated" our home about fifty times since moving in the end of July. While watching the kitten and chihuahua play (more of the hyperactive kitten "playing" with the independent chihuahua), I am suddenly horrified at the sight of a misplaced picture, or a couch that is clearly on the wrong wall completely. I don't know if it's perfectionism or pure boredom; whatever it is, my living room has had many facelifts. And, oh, the cleaning. Well, with the two aforementioned pieces of entertainment also known as Sosa the loyal chihuahua and Aubri the playful kitten, there is plenty of dusting and vacuuming to be done. Never a lack of laundry and kitchen and bathroom cleaning in our household, yet with no job and no human children (yes I consider Sosa and Aubri my babies), there is plenty of time to practice keeping house. My clean house is a very deceptive guise for "good house keeping skills". Those have yet to be proven, until I have to balance it with a full schedule. I am thankful for the time to master these skills for when I do have less time to devote to it.
Our women's ministry at church is currently doing a wonderful Bible study on personal revival. Admittedly, my "straight by the book", black-and-white personality was at first unsure about the idea. "Personal revival!? Where is that in the Bible?" Desperate for deep relationships in my new town, I decided to see what this was all about. And I am so glad God brought me there. Contrary to my simple minded ideas, personal revival is all over the Bible. Specifically we are looking at Hosea. This week the author discussed humility, and boy did it get personal. This morning's lesson ended the week with a personal inventory. Let me sum it up by saying it was a very convicting experience. I have a lot of "redecorating" to do. It was as if I had been just doing the next thing, which happened to be the women's Bible study, fellowshipping with other women then "bam!" I am suddenly horrified with the sight of my sin. How could I be so prideful?!? What do I even have to prideful about??!! And wow, does pride affect everything! This can be very overwhelming and quite depressing. As Romans 7:15 says "I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do, I do not do. But what I do not want to do, I do." Can you feel the frustration?!
Yet there is hope. Recently I have been studying through Psalm 119. The parallel between that and the revival study has been fascinating. (Remember, I am a housewife with only a dog and cat to take care of, so lots of time on my hands). While discovering my faults and struggles in the Bible study, the psalmist provides hope. Section Beth (v9-16) gives an explanation of how someone can keep the law: by treasuring His Word. Daleth (v25-32) has been my personal favorite thus far. The Psalmist is clearly confronted with his depravity and is yearning for revival. Yes, in verse 25 NASB uses the word "revive" is used. Silly me, revival is in the Bible. "My soul cleaves to the dust; (possibly the feelings we goes through when fully confronted with our sin) revive me according to Your Word." So where do you find the guide to "housekeeping"? God's Word. Verse 31: "I cling to You testimonies." Cling! This is the same word for your belt clinging to your waist. That's pretty tight (sometimes tighter than others!). :) Who or what do we cling to when confronted with sin? The true relief is found in God's Word and none other.
As long as we are on this earth, there will be plenty of housekeeping and redecorating to be done. But thank God, He has given us the Guide!
Our women's ministry at church is currently doing a wonderful Bible study on personal revival. Admittedly, my "straight by the book", black-and-white personality was at first unsure about the idea. "Personal revival!? Where is that in the Bible?" Desperate for deep relationships in my new town, I decided to see what this was all about. And I am so glad God brought me there. Contrary to my simple minded ideas, personal revival is all over the Bible. Specifically we are looking at Hosea. This week the author discussed humility, and boy did it get personal. This morning's lesson ended the week with a personal inventory. Let me sum it up by saying it was a very convicting experience. I have a lot of "redecorating" to do. It was as if I had been just doing the next thing, which happened to be the women's Bible study, fellowshipping with other women then "bam!" I am suddenly horrified with the sight of my sin. How could I be so prideful?!? What do I even have to prideful about??!! And wow, does pride affect everything! This can be very overwhelming and quite depressing. As Romans 7:15 says "I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do, I do not do. But what I do not want to do, I do." Can you feel the frustration?!
Yet there is hope. Recently I have been studying through Psalm 119. The parallel between that and the revival study has been fascinating. (Remember, I am a housewife with only a dog and cat to take care of, so lots of time on my hands). While discovering my faults and struggles in the Bible study, the psalmist provides hope. Section Beth (v9-16) gives an explanation of how someone can keep the law: by treasuring His Word. Daleth (v25-32) has been my personal favorite thus far. The Psalmist is clearly confronted with his depravity and is yearning for revival. Yes, in verse 25 NASB uses the word "revive" is used. Silly me, revival is in the Bible. "My soul cleaves to the dust; (possibly the feelings we goes through when fully confronted with our sin) revive me according to Your Word." So where do you find the guide to "housekeeping"? God's Word. Verse 31: "I cling to You testimonies." Cling! This is the same word for your belt clinging to your waist. That's pretty tight (sometimes tighter than others!). :) Who or what do we cling to when confronted with sin? The true relief is found in God's Word and none other.
As long as we are on this earth, there will be plenty of housekeeping and redecorating to be done. But thank God, He has given us the Guide!
Saturday, September 18, 2010
Driving Through the Country
Let me begin by saying this: driving in the country is not the same as driving in the city. Not even close. In fact, I think they should offer a class when transitioning from metro to rural or vice-versa. For example, a long road in south Georgia is NOT the same as that in the city. In the city, a long road is generally an interstate or highway, therefore the speed limit ranges from 55-75 mph. This is not the case in rural towns. A long straight road is just that: a long. straight. road. The speed limit ranges from 25-55mph. I can only think of one explanation, and this goes back to the idea of a "drive through the country." It means driving very slowly through the middle of nowhere, so as to take in the scenery. The "slowly" part is mandated by speed limits posted by the proud officials of that locale. It'd be a shame for a passer-by to miss part of the town while driving through. Don't get me wrong: driving in rural Georgia is quite interesting and has much more country-side to see than that of the big city. However, this type of driving is nowhere to be found in my personality description. When I get behind the wheel of a car, I do so because I have a destination. The "fun" part of driving is getting to the destination. This has become even more true as my city driving now stands out like a sore thumb to law enforcement in south Georgia with roads to pay for. I'm sure I own an entire highway somewhere by now. Since my first abode in south Georgia 6 years ago, I have learned to hate driving. And every single ticket has been in rural Georgia. No lie. I'm sure there are a few who sympathize with my distain for driving, as well as those who have yet to feel that drop in the stomach at the site of blue lights in the rear-view.
But this goal-driven attitude affects more than just my driving. Why is it so hard for me to enjoy the ride of life? "Oh I'll be settled once I graduate. Then I can have a ministry." Or "If only I could live in a big city. Then I would truely be happy." How much time have I lost by being focused on the goal and ignoring the signs around me, the needs around me? My ministry may not look like my "goal" but it is actually more valuable because it isn't my plan. Therefore, anything that happens cannot be credited to any accomplishments or goals that I have pushed myself to meet. Only God knows the things that will be accomplished along the way.
Proverbs 31:12, "She does him good and not evil all the days of her life." Did you notice the end of that verse? "All the days of her life." Not once she gets her white house with the picket fence; not once she gets her phD, or her dream career. Every single day she does the good things listed in the rest of the chapter.
This "slowing down and enjoying the ride" thing seems impossible and overwhelming to this goal-oriented chick, but sanctification is a process that Christ does in us. Philippians 4:12-14: all things are possible through Christ. So, while I learn to sit back and enjoy the ride (literally and figuratively), He is able to conform me to His image, and I am able to notice my surroundings. How exciting!
But this goal-driven attitude affects more than just my driving. Why is it so hard for me to enjoy the ride of life? "Oh I'll be settled once I graduate. Then I can have a ministry." Or "If only I could live in a big city. Then I would truely be happy." How much time have I lost by being focused on the goal and ignoring the signs around me, the needs around me? My ministry may not look like my "goal" but it is actually more valuable because it isn't my plan. Therefore, anything that happens cannot be credited to any accomplishments or goals that I have pushed myself to meet. Only God knows the things that will be accomplished along the way.
Proverbs 31:12, "She does him good and not evil all the days of her life." Did you notice the end of that verse? "All the days of her life." Not once she gets her white house with the picket fence; not once she gets her phD, or her dream career. Every single day she does the good things listed in the rest of the chapter.
This "slowing down and enjoying the ride" thing seems impossible and overwhelming to this goal-oriented chick, but sanctification is a process that Christ does in us. Philippians 4:12-14: all things are possible through Christ. So, while I learn to sit back and enjoy the ride (literally and figuratively), He is able to conform me to His image, and I am able to notice my surroundings. How exciting!
Monday, September 6, 2010
Where True Peace is Found
Most people have a picture of what their life will one day look like. It may not even be a "dream" per say, such as living in multi-million dollar house on beach, but there is a plan. Especially for us type A super-planners. Yet I hope by the end of this post, you will see that true peace is not found in fulfilling one's life goals.
My planned life: live in a big city, preferably Charlotte, Washington DC, or maybe even San Diego. Work full-time as a middle school science or health teacher, one day becoming a missionary to Central America. Happily married to someone who works in the ministry. One dog and one cat, two kids. Eat very little meat and dairy. Daily exercise and a ministry I can be involved in, both growing and serving.
Being an extreme introvert, hanging out with people for extended periods of time drains my energy. Don't get me wrong; I LOVE hanging out with friends, but I "recharge" by being alone. However, contrary to popular belief, I despise being alone. Weird, right? While I can't speak for other introverts, I enjoy being in crowds of people: people I don't know. During graduate school my "recharge station" was the mall, more specifically Barnes and Noble. Being a city with a population of 200,000, it was rare that I saw anyone I knew, yet I was never alone. There was no need to converse or entertain, yet there was the presence of other human beings. I would spend hours there in my energy dock. In undgrad, my station was Starbucks. It's an automatic response to extended periods of time with friends: head to the charger. You can see why I like the big city. You are never alone, and only see people you know if planned, preferably in one to two hour increments. It is my comfort zone. My husband is not an introvert....far from it. He loves interacting with people. He couldn't care less what or when he eats, but his "charging station" is hanging out with friends. They say opposites attract: we are living proof.
Yet I have found that being in my comfort zone may be the most dangerous place for me. I have "no need" to seek God's presence.
The population of my current town is 3,747. No, I didn't miss a zero. It's small. Ideal for an extrovert who thrives on interacting with people he knows. Yet this was not my plan, or my desire. After a long day of church or swimming lessons or parties, where do I "recharge"!? Where do I go to escape!?! And how am I supposed to be an example at the schools if I can't even get a job there? What will happen to my "perfect plans"? Panic sets in. Yet in that moment realizing my total loss of control, God's presence becomes know.
My plans, in and of themselves were not bad or "ungodly" at all. They were just that: my plans. But why worry about fulfilling my plans when God already has His plans in motion? Who am I to say that my plans are better than the Almighty Creator?! And what a peace that is found in letting go, and trusting God to ordain my steps. How exciting is it that He is letting me be part of His work here in the country! And there is so much work to be done. If I had started off with a full time job, with people I know, and a haven to recharge, I would have had no need to seek the Lord's presence. Yet in His presence is where peace and true purpose can be found. It took letting go and discomfort to find that.
In her book Keep a Quiet Heart Elisabeth Elliot wrote that she thought she'd live in Ecuador forever. But that was not God's plan. God does not call us to a life of wordly comfort where everything goes "according to plan", but quite the opposite. It is in the lifestyle of "discomfort" that peace is found. God has brought me where I am today, and I wouldn't want to be anywhere else.
My planned life: live in a big city, preferably Charlotte, Washington DC, or maybe even San Diego. Work full-time as a middle school science or health teacher, one day becoming a missionary to Central America. Happily married to someone who works in the ministry. One dog and one cat, two kids. Eat very little meat and dairy. Daily exercise and a ministry I can be involved in, both growing and serving.
Being an extreme introvert, hanging out with people for extended periods of time drains my energy. Don't get me wrong; I LOVE hanging out with friends, but I "recharge" by being alone. However, contrary to popular belief, I despise being alone. Weird, right? While I can't speak for other introverts, I enjoy being in crowds of people: people I don't know. During graduate school my "recharge station" was the mall, more specifically Barnes and Noble. Being a city with a population of 200,000, it was rare that I saw anyone I knew, yet I was never alone. There was no need to converse or entertain, yet there was the presence of other human beings. I would spend hours there in my energy dock. In undgrad, my station was Starbucks. It's an automatic response to extended periods of time with friends: head to the charger. You can see why I like the big city. You are never alone, and only see people you know if planned, preferably in one to two hour increments. It is my comfort zone. My husband is not an introvert....far from it. He loves interacting with people. He couldn't care less what or when he eats, but his "charging station" is hanging out with friends. They say opposites attract: we are living proof.
Yet I have found that being in my comfort zone may be the most dangerous place for me. I have "no need" to seek God's presence.
The population of my current town is 3,747. No, I didn't miss a zero. It's small. Ideal for an extrovert who thrives on interacting with people he knows. Yet this was not my plan, or my desire. After a long day of church or swimming lessons or parties, where do I "recharge"!? Where do I go to escape!?! And how am I supposed to be an example at the schools if I can't even get a job there? What will happen to my "perfect plans"? Panic sets in. Yet in that moment realizing my total loss of control, God's presence becomes know.
My plans, in and of themselves were not bad or "ungodly" at all. They were just that: my plans. But why worry about fulfilling my plans when God already has His plans in motion? Who am I to say that my plans are better than the Almighty Creator?! And what a peace that is found in letting go, and trusting God to ordain my steps. How exciting is it that He is letting me be part of His work here in the country! And there is so much work to be done. If I had started off with a full time job, with people I know, and a haven to recharge, I would have had no need to seek the Lord's presence. Yet in His presence is where peace and true purpose can be found. It took letting go and discomfort to find that.
In her book Keep a Quiet Heart Elisabeth Elliot wrote that she thought she'd live in Ecuador forever. But that was not God's plan. God does not call us to a life of wordly comfort where everything goes "according to plan", but quite the opposite. It is in the lifestyle of "discomfort" that peace is found. God has brought me where I am today, and I wouldn't want to be anywhere else.
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
A Pent Up Race Horse
Webster defines routine as "a regular course of procedure; habitual or mechanical performance of an established procedure." There's not much "routine" in the life of housewife. For me, it goes about as far as a weekly cleaning schedule. This can be hard on a type A, OCD, oldest of 5 new bride.
I like to think I am flexible. Give me one weeks notice and I'll be available for whatever you have in mind. :)
The people in our new community seem to know how to relax and be flexible much better than I do. Another area of growth; funny how God puts you in your least ideal situation so as to provide optimal growth. And I am thankful for that. After all, adjusting my scheduled time to go to the grocery store to hang out with a friend may not be the end of the world after all.
One thing I have been fortunate enough to establish in my daily "routine" is my workout. I LOVE my new gym! It's open 24-7 and is rarely crowed. Much to my husbands chagrin, I can even workout at 11pm after an unplanned food outing with friends. As is normal for those of us routine-followers, there are a few people who I see most every day at the gym. Granted, there is not much conversing going on between reps, but every now and then the usuals get a chance to catch up. One of these regulars is a local pastor. Upon first meeting, he explained how he came to his current church and proceeded to give me (a new youth pastor's wife) advise. "Start with the ABC's." I nodded, knowing deep down that I was prepared to jump right into inductive Bible study with my new youth. You see, I had it all planned out....
Famous last words. For those of you unfamiliar with inductive Bible study, it isn't something you just dive right into. You have to have a hunger for it. The words of the pastor seem so much more real. In all of my planning and training, the thought had never crossed my mind that what was normal for me was far from normal for others.
A local teacher-friend explained it well: "You just feel like a pent up race horse." She was referring to my desire for a teaching job. I have all this training and knowledge I am ready to try, yet no avenue to show it. I wonder how many of us miss valuable opportunities to minister and be part of God's plan simply because we have it "all planned out." Yet how exciting it is to be flexible and watch God work; He's plan is infinitely better than anything I could dream.
Proverbs 31:17- "She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her task."
And I'm sure the work of the Proverbs 31 woman is not always (if ever!) what she expects. She work diligently, whether she planned for it or not!
Webster defines flexible as"characterized by a ready capability to adapt to new, different, or changing requirements." God is faithful and I know He will help me gain this trait.
I like to think I am flexible. Give me one weeks notice and I'll be available for whatever you have in mind. :)
The people in our new community seem to know how to relax and be flexible much better than I do. Another area of growth; funny how God puts you in your least ideal situation so as to provide optimal growth. And I am thankful for that. After all, adjusting my scheduled time to go to the grocery store to hang out with a friend may not be the end of the world after all.
One thing I have been fortunate enough to establish in my daily "routine" is my workout. I LOVE my new gym! It's open 24-7 and is rarely crowed. Much to my husbands chagrin, I can even workout at 11pm after an unplanned food outing with friends. As is normal for those of us routine-followers, there are a few people who I see most every day at the gym. Granted, there is not much conversing going on between reps, but every now and then the usuals get a chance to catch up. One of these regulars is a local pastor. Upon first meeting, he explained how he came to his current church and proceeded to give me (a new youth pastor's wife) advise. "Start with the ABC's." I nodded, knowing deep down that I was prepared to jump right into inductive Bible study with my new youth. You see, I had it all planned out....
Famous last words. For those of you unfamiliar with inductive Bible study, it isn't something you just dive right into. You have to have a hunger for it. The words of the pastor seem so much more real. In all of my planning and training, the thought had never crossed my mind that what was normal for me was far from normal for others.
A local teacher-friend explained it well: "You just feel like a pent up race horse." She was referring to my desire for a teaching job. I have all this training and knowledge I am ready to try, yet no avenue to show it. I wonder how many of us miss valuable opportunities to minister and be part of God's plan simply because we have it "all planned out." Yet how exciting it is to be flexible and watch God work; He's plan is infinitely better than anything I could dream.
Proverbs 31:17- "She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her task."
And I'm sure the work of the Proverbs 31 woman is not always (if ever!) what she expects. She work diligently, whether she planned for it or not!
Webster defines flexible as"characterized by a ready capability to adapt to new, different, or changing requirements." God is faithful and I know He will help me gain this trait.
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
Refocusing
Let's get honest for a moment: as of the past month, any fantasies of going out of town usually involve interstates, Starbucks, and of course shopping malls. Hey, I wouldn't even mind getting stuck in traffic for a little while. However, this weekend we found ourselves going further south...yes it is possible! My husband was a groomsman in a wedding, and we spent last weekend participating in the wedding festivities in deep south Georgia.
While there, we had the privilege of meeting an Australian pastor and his college intern. What an encouraging pair! During the weekend we had several conversations about ministry. In their laid-back Aussie style, they explained their discipleship-based ministry in the land Down Under. Meanwhile, God is using them to reveal suppressed truths about my own current attitude....
The biggest struggle with being jobless is tied to our humanistic need for approval. I mean, how would I even cope if mud was tracked onto my new rug?! And of course the world would come to an end if, heaven forbid, I served spinach salad and baked chicken to someone who hates vegetables and prefers red meat.
And then comes the big one: what do people think of me being unemployed? Every career question prompts a long explanation; I mean, it'd be just awful if people thought I CHOSE my current occupation!! But seriously, why so do I care so much?! How shallow! While it's totally fine and natural for me to want to present a clean, modern home, and it's totally fine for me to enjoy making myself look presentable (I believe one pastor said it would be a sin for some women not to wear makeup! ha), there is a balance. So what is it that really does matter? What matters is that I am using my gifts and resources to bring glory to God. He has provided me with a town house to host people, kitchen equipment to cook, and plenty of time to prepare! At the end of the day, if they didn't like my food or if someone stopped by before I had a chance to vacuum, my purpose has not been hindered. In fact, it has actually been accomplished: relationship building.
And this all goes back to what we as Christians we are called to do wherever we are..."make disciples." (Acts 1:8)
What is being in the ministry really about? It's not about numbers; it's not about convincing people to become Christians; it's about producing disciples. Isn't it frustrating how we get so stuck on ourselves? It's like we need visible affirmation that our work is worthwhile. Similar to my struggles in looking for approval from others in my housekeeping, often the focus in ministry is on numbers. It's on things that can be easily measured. I may base our success on how many people we shared the gospel with, or how many came to Sunday school, or how many Bible studies we are in. As confirmed by our new Australian friends, the focus is all wrong. My job is to make disciples. This is not as easily measured, but why does it need to be?? I should not seek man's approval, but God's. And what is it that brings Him joy?
1. Be attentive to the missions field around me. Look for opportunities to lead people to Him, help them grow.
2. Make disciples. And this goes both ways. Not only do I need to find a place grow, but I also need to find people to disciple.
3. Use my gifts! God gave me my gifts and preferences and He doesn't expect me to ignore them, but to use them for His glory!
I am blessed to have come from a family based on discipleship. As I have grown up and moved around, I have really come to appreciate my dad's commitment to discipling his kids. I have never met another dad like him. How blessed am I!? And he continues that commitment in the lives of men and college guys. His goal is not to lead people to Christ but to guide them through a growing walk with the Lord. It's the multiplication factor! My dad is the best example of true, worthwhile ministry that I know, my model for ministry here. <3
While there, we had the privilege of meeting an Australian pastor and his college intern. What an encouraging pair! During the weekend we had several conversations about ministry. In their laid-back Aussie style, they explained their discipleship-based ministry in the land Down Under. Meanwhile, God is using them to reveal suppressed truths about my own current attitude....
The biggest struggle with being jobless is tied to our humanistic need for approval. I mean, how would I even cope if mud was tracked onto my new rug?! And of course the world would come to an end if, heaven forbid, I served spinach salad and baked chicken to someone who hates vegetables and prefers red meat.
And then comes the big one: what do people think of me being unemployed? Every career question prompts a long explanation; I mean, it'd be just awful if people thought I CHOSE my current occupation!! But seriously, why so do I care so much?! How shallow! While it's totally fine and natural for me to want to present a clean, modern home, and it's totally fine for me to enjoy making myself look presentable (I believe one pastor said it would be a sin for some women not to wear makeup! ha), there is a balance. So what is it that really does matter? What matters is that I am using my gifts and resources to bring glory to God. He has provided me with a town house to host people, kitchen equipment to cook, and plenty of time to prepare! At the end of the day, if they didn't like my food or if someone stopped by before I had a chance to vacuum, my purpose has not been hindered. In fact, it has actually been accomplished: relationship building.
And this all goes back to what we as Christians we are called to do wherever we are..."make disciples." (Acts 1:8)
What is being in the ministry really about? It's not about numbers; it's not about convincing people to become Christians; it's about producing disciples. Isn't it frustrating how we get so stuck on ourselves? It's like we need visible affirmation that our work is worthwhile. Similar to my struggles in looking for approval from others in my housekeeping, often the focus in ministry is on numbers. It's on things that can be easily measured. I may base our success on how many people we shared the gospel with, or how many came to Sunday school, or how many Bible studies we are in. As confirmed by our new Australian friends, the focus is all wrong. My job is to make disciples. This is not as easily measured, but why does it need to be?? I should not seek man's approval, but God's. And what is it that brings Him joy?
1. Be attentive to the missions field around me. Look for opportunities to lead people to Him, help them grow.
2. Make disciples. And this goes both ways. Not only do I need to find a place grow, but I also need to find people to disciple.
3. Use my gifts! God gave me my gifts and preferences and He doesn't expect me to ignore them, but to use them for His glory!
I am blessed to have come from a family based on discipleship. As I have grown up and moved around, I have really come to appreciate my dad's commitment to discipling his kids. I have never met another dad like him. How blessed am I!? And he continues that commitment in the lives of men and college guys. His goal is not to lead people to Christ but to guide them through a growing walk with the Lord. It's the multiplication factor! My dad is the best example of true, worthwhile ministry that I know, my model for ministry here. <3
Wednesday, August 11, 2010
Wear Your Heels!
As all of my friends know, I love love LOVE to wear heels. Something about them makes me feels much more relaxed and confident. While it's nice to find a pair of comfortable stilettos, this is not always realistic. I'll pick a toe-pinching "tall shoe" over the most comfortable ballet flats every time. Now once my job description changes, this persuasion may change slightly. But for now: heels win out every time.
With this love comes a love for shopping. I LOVE shopping! My favorite is finding "deals". "Banana Republic shirt for $10!? What an easy shopping-decision!" While Augusta wasn't one of my favorite cities to live it, they made up for it with an AMAZING mall. The three best stores a girl could ever want were side by side: The Loft, Banana Republic, and Gap! Overwhelming, I know. A simple stop through on my way to studying at Barnes and Noble would produce bargains beyond belief! But somehow I managed to live there two years without going completely bankrupt.
One of the many adjustments of living in south Georgia: the closest mall is two hours. While at first this fact was part of my wallowing, God is faithful enough to give me a reality check every now and then. Fact 1: I have no job. Hence, the blog! No job=no income=no money. Period. Fact 2: Shopping is not the most productive way to spend my time. While there is a time and a place, I can see how being a housewife with a mall close by would be dangerous...very dangerous. Fact 3: God has a lot of work here for us to do. The last thing I need are distractions from this work.
While I am still figuring out God's current calling for me, each day is an adventure. As He helps me focus more and more on Him, He is showing me ways to be part of His work here. Being a youth pastor's wife, this shouldn't be hard to find. Isn't it funny how we make "doing the Lord's work" so complicated? Maybe what God has for me right now is to help with cleaning up after youth events after everyone has left; or type up handouts for the lessons Wednesday night. Or even just do what I can to help the youth pastor be the best youth pastor he can be! This is not as glamorous as leading Bible studies or writing books, but since when is it all about me? This is a hard pill to swallow; my wallowing and self-pity do not allow such thinking. How exciting, though, to be part of the amazing work God is doing here! And what an honor. Despite feeling out of place and useless, He has given me purpose. All He is asking me to do is be myself and look for ways to dive right into His work.
So, while wearing my new $8 Gap shirt (purchased through online shopping... moderation is key!) and my "tall shoes", God is using me right here in south Georgia.
Proverbs 31:22- "She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple."
My mom is one of the classiest women I know; she makes a point of presenting herself in a proper way without being flashy and consumed with her appearance. Her house is always nicely decorated and clean. Meanwhile, she has an extraordinary ministry with the impoverished high school mothers in her GED class. Clearly her sense of style is not flashy! And she in NO way lives outside of her means. Where do you think I get my love for bargain shopping?! :) Because of this, she is a true Proverbs 31 wife. I hope to one day find that balance she has. She's my hero!
With this love comes a love for shopping. I LOVE shopping! My favorite is finding "deals". "Banana Republic shirt for $10!? What an easy shopping-decision!" While Augusta wasn't one of my favorite cities to live it, they made up for it with an AMAZING mall. The three best stores a girl could ever want were side by side: The Loft, Banana Republic, and Gap! Overwhelming, I know. A simple stop through on my way to studying at Barnes and Noble would produce bargains beyond belief! But somehow I managed to live there two years without going completely bankrupt.
One of the many adjustments of living in south Georgia: the closest mall is two hours. While at first this fact was part of my wallowing, God is faithful enough to give me a reality check every now and then. Fact 1: I have no job. Hence, the blog! No job=no income=no money. Period. Fact 2: Shopping is not the most productive way to spend my time. While there is a time and a place, I can see how being a housewife with a mall close by would be dangerous...very dangerous. Fact 3: God has a lot of work here for us to do. The last thing I need are distractions from this work.
While I am still figuring out God's current calling for me, each day is an adventure. As He helps me focus more and more on Him, He is showing me ways to be part of His work here. Being a youth pastor's wife, this shouldn't be hard to find. Isn't it funny how we make "doing the Lord's work" so complicated? Maybe what God has for me right now is to help with cleaning up after youth events after everyone has left; or type up handouts for the lessons Wednesday night. Or even just do what I can to help the youth pastor be the best youth pastor he can be! This is not as glamorous as leading Bible studies or writing books, but since when is it all about me? This is a hard pill to swallow; my wallowing and self-pity do not allow such thinking. How exciting, though, to be part of the amazing work God is doing here! And what an honor. Despite feeling out of place and useless, He has given me purpose. All He is asking me to do is be myself and look for ways to dive right into His work.
So, while wearing my new $8 Gap shirt (purchased through online shopping... moderation is key!) and my "tall shoes", God is using me right here in south Georgia.
Proverbs 31:22- "She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple."
My mom is one of the classiest women I know; she makes a point of presenting herself in a proper way without being flashy and consumed with her appearance. Her house is always nicely decorated and clean. Meanwhile, she has an extraordinary ministry with the impoverished high school mothers in her GED class. Clearly her sense of style is not flashy! And she in NO way lives outside of her means. Where do you think I get my love for bargain shopping?! :) Because of this, she is a true Proverbs 31 wife. I hope to one day find that balance she has. She's my hero!
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